It’s not that we don’t all know this or expect this, but for the record, chasing your dreams is hard work. We knew this going in, and I am still the positive, happy girl that has been writing to you all along, but today I thought I would not only update you with our status, but throw out of some of the harsh realities. So far since landing in Frankfurt………….
*We had to share a room with our 1 year old, which didn’t sound like a problem until we learned that he would only sleep with us, not in his pack-n-play, and mostly kicked me in the face….A LOT.
*We bought a kitchen prior to our move and had M’s mom handle getting it from the person (it was used) and paying for it, etc. Upon going to pick it up, M called me to say it was so dirty and damaged it wasn’t even worth moving it. There went 250 euro that we didn’t have to waste considering we are both unemployed.
*As far as the few things we did ship over as household goods, the moving company decided to royally screw us over costing us an additional $2,000-$3,000 that we weren’t expecting and had no choice but to pay. They justified this stating that we asked for expedited shipping, which we did not, and that we would have our stuff in 4-6 weeks door-to-door. Monday is 6 weeks people and we don’t even have delivery scheduled. Our goods are here in Germany supposedly sitting at customs.
*Although I hate to admit this, it must be obvious that for the time being we are surviving off government assistance. However, the government has approved so little and denied me any money for the first 3 months since I am American, that they think after bills are paid, 3 people can survive for about 175 euro for a whole month of food and gas. Granted, we still plan on applying for a different kind of assistance for me and M can do side work for his uncle for some money, but the stress is still abundant in this household until M is employed.
So, all that being said, we have been living in an apartment for a week now, with no kitchen, no Internet, a small computer monitor we are using for TV and the bare minimum of anything you can expect. Luckily, we live next door to M’s mom so we can go there to eat and do laundry and I use the bathroom sink to wash any dishes we use to eat non-perishable items we keep here.
THE BRIGHT SIDE:
We did get a kitchen last night and although it is still in pieces until this weekend, we at least have a refrigerator. You never know how much you need one of those until you don’t have one! We also got a washing machine machine and M’s mom gave us her dryer. We do have a very nice bedroom with furniture (that also needs painting) and we should have Internet tomorrow. We were able to buy a car and it is registered and insured. And aside, from needing a little paint, TLC and more furniture/belongings, I adore our apartment. Our village is very friendly and everyone has been very warm in welcoming me to the community, despite my poor German skills. Our landlord is very attentive and nice and while sometimes it is a little overwhelming, it is nice to have someone who cares about their tenants and making sure they have a nice place to live. M has worked for his uncle every day this week and we are starting to see some of our assistance in our bank account. We also signed the boy up for kindergarten next year which is basically FREE and I can walk him there. Anyone from the states knows what a luxury this is!
So friends, my point in all this is that, we took a huge risk chasing this dream and I haven’t regretted one moment of it. Taking control of your life and making it what you want is hard, but if it were easy, than maybe you wouldn’t appreciate it as much. I’ve learned more than once in my life that the hardest decisions are almost always the right ones and nothing worth having comes easy.